Mediation & Conflict Transformation
High-stakes conflict requires more than settlement. It requires judgment, structure, and the ability to work across legal, relational, and organizational layers simultaneously.
When conflict escalates, it drains time, money, focus, and trust.
Communication stalls. Positions harden. And what once felt manageable becomes costly — professionally and personally.
Mediation offers a structured, confidential process for resolving disputes while preserving decision-making control in your hands.
You — not a judge, arbitrator, or other outside authority — determine the outcome.
The purpose of mediation is clear:
- Clarify what truly matters beneath competing positions
- Restore productive communication
- Reach agreements that are workable, durable, and aligned with your interests
Even in complex or emotionally charged disputes, mediation creates a disciplined environment where forward movement becomes possible.
Most mediation addresses the dispute itself.
Systemic Mediation™ - as I practice it - addresses the dispute and the system in which it exists.
Conflict unfolds within families, partnerships, executive teams, organizations, and stakeholder networks. How it is handled affects culture, morale, reputation, and long-term viability.
Settlement alone is not enough if it weakens the system that must continue.
My approach integrates:
- Facilitative mediation
- Interest-based negotiation
- Systemic team coaching
- Somatic and relational leadership practice
This allows us to work at multiple levels simultaneously, namely the:
- Substantive issues
- Relational dynamics
- Stakeholder ecosystem
- Future conditions required for stability
Together, we design agreements that are not only enforceable — but sustainable.
Because resolution that weakens the system is fragile.
Resolution that strengthens it builds capacity and becomes leadership.
Mediation is voluntary and confidential.
It is often chosen when:
- Ongoing relationships matter
- Communication has broken down but resolution is still desired
- Legal escalation would increase cost or reputational risk
- The situation requires nuance beyond legal remedy
- Leaders want control over both outcome and impact
Mediation minimizes:
- Litigation expense
- Public exposure
- Prolonged uncertainty
- Secondary damage to relationships or culture
If resolution is achieved, agreements are typically clearer and more durable because the parties themselves have shaped them.
If resolution is not achieved, your legal rights remain intact.
Low risk. High strategic leverage.
I work constructively with counsel and recommend that parties remain well-advised throughout the process. Effective mediation is collaborative, not adversarial — and benefits from thoughtful legal partnership.
I began my career as an attorney and witnessed firsthand the human and financial cost of adversarial escalation.
In 1995, when mediation was still emerging in the United States, I chose to specialize in facilitative conflict resolution for transforming collaborative and leadership outcomes.
Since then, I have mediated in both legal and non-legal contexts, including:
- Family business and estate matters
- Workplace and employment conflicts
- Joint ventures and partnership dissolutions
- Public policy and environmental disputes
- Community disputes
- Bankruptcy (Certified Panel Member since 1996, U.S. Bankruptcy Court – Northern District of California)
- Americans with Disabilities Act disputes (Certified Panel Member since 1996, U.S. Department of Justice ADA Mediation Program)
My work is further informed by somatic coaching, applied neuroscience, trauma-aware communication, and systemic leadership practice.
The result is a mediation process that is structured, psychologically informed, and grounded in sound judgment.
If You Are Considering Mediation
If you are navigating a dispute that is:
Mediation may provide a disciplined, confidential forum for resolution.
Conflict handled well becomes a turning point.
Handled poorly, it compounds.
The choice matters.
I welcome a confidential conversation to explore whether this approach is appropriate for your situation.
If you are navigating a dispute that is:
- Draining leadership capacity
- Creating internal or external risk
- Straining a relationship you may need to preserve or
- Escalating beyond what feels productive
Mediation may provide a disciplined, confidential forum for resolution.
Conflict handled well becomes a turning point.
Handled poorly, it compounds.
The choice matters.
I welcome a confidential conversation to explore whether this approach is appropriate for your situation.
To explore mediation / conflict transformation options that meet your needs, click the red button to schedule a 30-minute no-obligation, no-cost Discovery Session.
Let's get you to the other side, beyond conflict.
Let's get you to the other side, beyond conflict.
I would not hesitate to recommend Beata to you for any client business matter requiring resolution. She is well-organized and well-prepared. She is very effective in resolving difficult situations. Beata is an excellent mediator.
K. Sommer, Esq, Attorney & Founding Parter - Sommer Udall Lawfirm
Beata is a great, personable coach with tremendous intuition, creativity and an orientation for results--but more importantly: an orientation for making sure the results are actually aligned with what her clients TRULY want (which sometimes isn't the same as they initially think they want). ... see "Client Reflections"
M. Bohunovsky, former CEO - Modula4, Inc.
At a time when the Burning Man phenomenon was growing rapidly and diversifying globally, our organizational founding Board was experiencing disruption and strife. We hired Beata at this inflection point to guide us in clearing out divisive patterns of communication and interaction and in choosing ways of leading together more collaboratively, with mutual respect and reciprocity. Beata facilitated conflict transformation and change with our six-person Board that catalyzed healing of persistent trust breakdowns so that we could build forward on a more trustworthy and resilient foundation among ourselves. ... See "Client Reflections"
M. Goodell, Board Member & CEO - Black Rock City LLC
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I would not hesitate to recommend Beata to you for any client business matter requiring resolution. She is well-organized and well-prepared. She is very effective in resolving difficult situations. Beata is an excellent mediator.
K. Sommer, Esq, Attorney & Founding Parter - Sommer Udall Lawfirm
I have known Beata since the mid-90s as a mediation colleague and a friend. We share a dedication to peace at work and to the transformative promise of the mediation process in all its variations. An embodiment exercise I learned from Beata years ago has become an inspiring teaching in my own work with students and clients. I appreciate her insight and skill in guiding people to face any challenge with greater resourcefulness, trust, and ultimately fulfillment. You are in good hands with this caring and capable expert.
J. Ford - Mediator; Author of "Peace at Work: The HR Manager's Guide to Workplace Mediation" and "The Empathy Set"
Choosing co-creation is an obvious step to take in resolving conflict. We all recognize the value of cooperation. So why do we often forget it when conflicts arise in our life? There is one simple reason: it takes time, energy, and work to co-create when there are major differences in a relationship. It's easier to avoid a problem, or "go along" with the opposing viewpoint (secretly resentful, of course), or simply fight it out. Co-creation takes listening and understanding and a commitment to discovering a solution together. It means not having it be just your way, but rolling up your sleeves to create new possibilities.
The Magic of Conflict: Turning a Life of Work into a Work of Art, by Thomas F. Crum
Mediation [is] appealing not because resolution or settlement [is] good in itself and conflict evil, but because of the way in which mediation allow[s] disputing parties to understand themselves and relate to one another through and within conflict. In short, many have come to feel that empowerment and recognition - the transformative dimensions of mediation - matter as much or more than settlement, and they matter not only in themselves but as expressions of a much broader shift to a new moral and social vision. As such, their importance is primary and immense.
The Promise of Mediation: Responding to Conflict Through Empowerment and Recognition, by Robert A. Baruch Bush and Joseph P. Folger